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A Different Way to Ask "How was your day dear?"
February 04, 2014

I hope this finds you all well. It's been a busy, somewhat personally stressful start to the new year for me. And yet, still I feel very blessed by the love of family and friends-- and the opportunity to support those struggling in their relationships.

In this newsletter you'll find alternative questions to "How was your day?" that will do wonders to deepen your intimate, emotional connection. I also review the short e-book by Brent Atkinson, Habits of People Who Know How to Get Their Partners to Treat Them Well.


Tools & Tips: Different Ways to Ask How Was Your Day?

Let's face it. Sometimes marriage over the long haul can become...well..boring. We find ourselves doing the same things day in and day out, having the same kinds of brief check-ins following the work day. But couples who keep a strong bond know how to have deeper kinds of conversations than just "How was your day?"...and it doesn't take any more time. It's just more interesting!

Here are some questions to help you break out of your routine. They might seem strange at first, but pretty soon it'll be normal. And, they're great to do with your kids too (instead of, "How was school?" "Okay")

1. What made you laugh today?
2. What was the most frustrating thing about your day?
3. What was the one thing you wish you could have done today?
4. What was the best thing about your day?
5. What was the most interesting conversation you had today?
6. What would you love to do right now?

Once you get started, the options are endless. Give it a shot. Likely you'll see how much deeper the conversation goes in a short amount of time.

Book Recommendation: Habits of People Who Know How to Get Their Partners to Treat Them Well

I spend a lot of time on Brent Atkinson's site, The Couples Clinic. He has terrific resources and articles. One in particular I love is his article called, Habits of People Who Know How To Get Their Partners to Treat Them Well. It provides a terrific overview of the mindset it takes to communicate as well as step by step instructions(we're talking flow chart!)on how to confront your partner on issues much more effectively. It's a phenomenal resource for couples and I highly recommend it.

Want Even more Advice on Relationships?

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There's lots to read these days and certainly not enough time to read it all. Tuck this blog away for those times when you really need to read something to get perspective on your relationship.

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Also, I'm offering free articles to those who request them. I have just released a brand new article called, "From Roommates to Playmates: How to Get Back Sexual Intimacy." Other articles available are: "Seven Habits of Good Communication" "Building & Keeping a close Relationship." and "Affair-Proofing Your Marriage." Click on the following link to get your free articles!


Request for Reviews on Yelp and Google+

I need your help! These days, business marketing efforts not only include having a presence with social media (Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc), it also includes having your business listed with positive reviews on the major search engines and directories. I am requesting, if you feel so inclined, for you to take the time to write a brief, thoughtful review on either of the following sites:


If you have a Google+ account, you can look on your side bar, click on “More” and find “Local.” On the local page, you can search for Reinventing Relationships. From there you can rate me/my business and write a review. If you like, you can just give it a “star” rating and leave it at that. This will help with my ranking on google searches. Reinventing Relationships Google+ Page


I also have a listing on Yelp. To write a review, you have to create an account if you don’t’ have one already. It’s easy to create. On Yelp, it’s possible to write a review more anonymously. For your first name, if you like, you can just put initials or create a false name. To review, Reinventing Relationships on Yelp.

You can also “Like” my Facebook page, become a fan or just click “like” or “share” various articles on my website or blog.

Your time and thoughtfulness is much appreciated!!

Thank you for sharing this journey in life and love with me.


Karen Holland, LMFT 4155 E. Jewell Avenue, Ste 703 Denver, CO 80222 (720) 432-4409/office

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