Emotional Spring Cleaning

Emotional Spring Cleaning: Clearing Up the clutter of your mind!

It's that time of year for spring cleaning!  And, it's got me thinking about emotional spring cleaning too.   What resentments am I storing up? What hurts, worries or issues have I been ignoring? And, what’s the impact of all that emotional clutter on my psyche and my health?

You may wonder, how does one go about emotional spring cleaning? It’s not magic. And, just like spring cleaning, it’s not necessarily fun. Consider this your reminder to stop procrastinating and handle the little, and maybe some of the big things in your life.  

Here are Four Ways to do some Emotional Spring Cleaning: 

  • Make a list of the things you've meaning to do but keep putting off. For me, it's been my will and other legal documents that would protect my family. I also need to get some dental work done and my car air conditioner fixed (among many other things)! In the time management world these things are called energy detractors. They constantly nag at us but aren't necessarily “urgent.” After you've made the list then...wait for it...get them done as quickly as possible!  And see how much better you feel! 
  • Make a list of the relationships in your life (friends, family, spouse, children, coworkers) that are bothering you in some way.  It could be a friend you've been meaning to reach out to; Maybe you need to confront a coworker about a problematic behavior. You might be putting off an important conversation with your spouse or you've completely given up on trying to improve things with your mother. Divide them into a list Easy, Medium and Hard. Tackle the easy ones quickly and commit to handling one “medium. “ For the hard conversations, imagine it in your mind then role play it with someone you trust. If you're ready to have the conversation, do it! If not, revisit your list in a month and see if things have improved or gotten worse. Reconsider the “medium” and “hard” conversations.
  • Handle your health issues. Make doctors and dentist appointments; schedule massages. Do whatever it takes to make your body feel better.
  • Considering scheduling an appointment with a therapist for help with bigger emotional issues like trauma, depression, anxiety or ongoing marital struggles. For the most part, these issues tend to get worse over time, not better (despite our wishful thinking). There are a lot of wonderful strategies out there for improving our lives. Use them!

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