Emotional Spring Cleaning
Emotional Spring Cleaning: Clearing Up the clutter of your mind!
It's that time of year for spring cleaning! And, it's got me thinking about emotional spring
cleaning too. What resentments am I storing up? What hurts, worries
or issues have I been ignoring? And, what’s the impact of all that
emotional clutter on my psyche and my health?
You may wonder, how does one go about
emotional spring cleaning? It’s not magic. And, just like spring
cleaning, it’s not necessarily fun. Consider this your reminder to
stop procrastinating and handle the little, and maybe some of the big
things in your life.
Here are Four Ways to do some Emotional Spring Cleaning:
- Make a list of the things you've
meaning to do but keep putting off. For me, it's been my will and
other legal documents that would protect my family. I also need to get some
dental work done and my car air conditioner fixed (among
many other things)! In the time management world these things are
called energy detractors. They constantly nag at us but aren't
necessarily “urgent.” After you've made the list then...wait
for it...get them done as quickly as possible! And see how much better you feel!
- Make a list of the relationships
in your life (friends, family, spouse, children, coworkers) that are bothering you in some way. It could be a friend you've been meaning to reach
out to; Maybe you need to confront a coworker about a problematic
behavior. You might be putting off an important conversation with
your spouse or you've completely given up on
trying to improve things with your mother. Divide them into a list
Easy, Medium and Hard. Tackle the easy ones quickly and commit to
handling one “medium. “ For the hard conversations, imagine it
in your mind then role play it with someone you trust. If you're
ready to have the conversation, do it! If not, revisit your list in a month and see if
things have improved or gotten worse. Reconsider the “medium”
and “hard” conversations.
- Handle your health issues. Make
doctors and dentist appointments; schedule massages. Do whatever it
takes to make your body feel better.
- Considering scheduling an
appointment with a therapist for help with bigger emotional issues
like trauma, depression, anxiety or ongoing marital struggles. For
the most part, these issues tend to get worse over time, not better
(despite our wishful thinking). There are a lot of wonderful
strategies out there for improving our lives. Use them!
Check out this wonderful resource for getting your marriage back on track!