Hate Scheduling Sex? Try Sexy Scheduling!

Do you hate scheduling sex? Try sexy scheduling instead.

When I bring up the idea of scheduling sex, many couples groan at the thought. “It should be spontaneous!” or “It’s not very romantic to schedule it!” are statements I often hear. And my response right back is, “Well, are you now having as much spontaneous romantic sex as you want?” Of course the answer is “no” for most couples. Sex is critical to the overall health of the relationship. And, sex two to three times per week is correlated with overall long term happiness and longevity of a marriage. So…if your relationship is important to you, you might want to reconsider the benefits of scheduling sex.

How can you make scheduling sex fun, romantic and even spontaneous?

The answer if you hate scheduling sex: Try Sexy Scheduling!

No, I don’t mean that you get your calendars out while you’re naked, though that’s not a bad idea. I mean, there are all kinds of creative ways to set up a time for sex that makes it something to anticipate and enhances your ability to talk in sexy or romantic ways. Consider these three ideas:

1). Write a note or text message to your spouse that says something like this: “The thought of your (my) legs wrapped around me (you) and my fingers in your hair just turned me on right now. You are so beautiful (sexy) to me. How about Friday night we see how that feels for both of us?” There are hundreds of ways you can phrase notes like this. Guys, make sure you don’t say something like, “It’s been two weeks. Want to have sex?” So not appealing! Tell her she’s beautiful and that you can’t wait to touch her again. Ladies, being critical and referencing sex don’t mix. It really kills the mood. You can be as sweet or as naughty as you want to be with these notes. Have fun with it!

2). Set up a standing date night every week so that you can more easily reserve babysitters and/or make it part of your routine. To make the evening more spontaneous, however, leave it wide open as to what you will do or do a completely new activity. You can pick a neighborhood you’ve always wanted to explore and just walk around; go to a restaurant neither of you have ever been to or do a completely new activity (like roller skating, salsa dancing, adult night at the museum, indoor skydiving, etc.).

3) Use books like, “101 Grrreat Nights of Sex” or “101 Nights of Grrreat Romance” for some terrific, fun ideas for sexual encounters and dates. These books are sealed and are designed for “him” and “her” so you can take turns planning your weekly dates, while keeping it a surprise and completely spontaneous.
Remember: It’s not scheduling sex that is not sexy. It’s not having sex that’s not sexy!


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