1. When we argue, small issues suddenly become big ones for no apparent reason.

2. We sometimes say or do things we later regret during arguments.

3. We have a hard time validating each other when we disagree.

4. We struggle to come to a mutually satisfying resolution after an argument is over.

5. One or both of us feels emotionally overwhelmed or heated during arguments.

6. One or both of us have difficulty apologizing or re-establishing connection after an argument.

7. We don't check in with each other throughout the day.

8. We tend to sweep issues under the rug and let things pile up.

9. We tend to misunderstand each other or hurt each other's feelings.

10. We tend to bring up past issues in current arguments.

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